My Story
Where to start? I'm Dom, and thank you so much for stopping by — I hope you find your safe space here.
I'm a Londoner born and bred, aside from an 8-month stint in Australia and three whirlwind years at university in Wales.
I became a coach in 2019, finally training in something I'd always known I wanted to do — and quickly realised just how rewarding it would be.
I've lived a colourful life, which you'll find in more depth through my blog and social profiles. But for first-time visitors: I came out at 16 and I'm a proud gay man. I grew up without a father, raised by an inspirational, unequivocally strong single mother who taught me that we're all equal no matter how we identify or what we do.
But things haven't always been easy.
For years I struggled with my identity, my self-belief, my self-worth and my self-talk — my sexuality, my looks, other people's opinions of me. I chipped away at my own confidence without realising it. Then in 2012, my sister passed away after an 11-year battle with cancer, aged 27.
The How and The Why
Years later, I'm now a confidence coach, I have been a volunteer bereavement support worker, and also a peer support facilitator for a charity supporting LGBTQ+ cancer patients.
Simply, I am on a mission — to help people refocus the direction of their life, find their confidence, and feel excited and motivated about what's next.
I've been through years of pain and years of joy. I've met incredible people, said goodbye to others who left me lessons I'll always be grateful for, and through it all I discovered the most amazing person — me.
I've been to therapy, talked about my feelings, invested in coaching myself. There was a real disconnect between me and the gay community for a long time, but I understand why now — and I use that understanding to work with the queer community and embrace it fully.
I worked out that if I felt this way, someone else was bound to feel it too — especially after losing my sister. I remember feeling lonely for a long time without realising it, and learning to be okay with that.
So I became a transformational coach, because I believe in the power each of us holds — it just sometimes needs coaching out of us.
I know this is what I'm supposed to do, and I'm deeply passionate about it. I went through some of the hardest experiences of my life for a reason: to help people feel as confident as they can be.
I know the power I can harness through what I do, and I want to help you feel comfortable in your own skin — and fight for yourself.
Coaching & The LGBTQIA+ Community
I remember when I came out, I was terrified. For some the narrative is very different, but this is how it went for me.
There's a moment where you just don't know. You can sense how people might react, but you're never sure — and once those words are out, you have no idea what will be left afterwards. Dynamics change, relationships change, opinions change. The life you'd built until that point disappears in a split second, and then you're left dealing with the aftermath.
The person you'd been hiding is no longer in hiding. For me, it felt like I had no idea who I was supposed to be now — I'd spent so long living a lie that I had no clue who to be outside of it.
The goal is to know who you want to be, and to know that person can exist confidently in society — without hiding or being subjected to conditions. Being authentically gay shouldn't be conditional; it should be unconditional. In a world where you can be whoever you want, so many of us still feel extremely limited.
In my experience and in conversations with other gay men, many feel that as soon as they come out they have to fit into a certain group to belong — roles, looks and stereotypes shaped by social and media influences. Bisexual people are often told they're greedy or indecisive. Lesbians are frequently vilified and objectified. Trans people are still fighting for the same human rights the rest of us already have.
You can end up becoming someone you're almost happy with, but who isn't really you. It's about processing that, understanding how it fits into your life, and unpacking those feelings to become the confident version of yourself — comfortable in your own skin, whether that's at work, in your personal life, or simply on the bus.
I help you get to that level — to be your own person, without the comparisons and pressures to identify in a specific way. I want you to learn from your experience and figure out how to show up authentically, unapologetically and unconditionally, both in and out of the queer community.
